Hello Simona,

I feel like you aren’t able to get past the one month contract because it feels like the end of the relationship. You are unsure if you need to mourn or keep pursuing him. I would take the one month as a challenge to yourself. You need to see who you are as a person and what you want from your own life. In the end, you might end up realizing that you want more time for yourself.

I especially think you need more time for yourself and would end the relationship. He has hurt you before (cheating on you) and has pushed you away when you have tried to talk to him. I believe when someone cheats on they ruin the trust you have for them. That isn’t something you can easily build back up and you shouldn’t have to feel that suspicious feeling time and time again. As a duty to yourself, recognize your own worth and ask yourself is this a person I really need in my life? Will the effort I give them be returned? If there isn’t a definite yes in your answer than I’m sorry to say you must move on. A relationship takes effort and it isn’t just your feelings about the person. Life has a variety of situations and effort in a relationship is needed to get past them. It isn’t fair to you when you can be there for him during that situation but he needs to “take time for himself” when you are going through a crisis.