Dear Chris:

You wrote in your original post: “it was so visceral and yet simultaneously so numbing. I’m afraid of love… something is missing”

Having read your second post I figure you experience your emotions too intensely for comfort and so, your brain automatically goes numb. So it is either too intense or numb. Too intense is scary, numb leaves you not knowing what to do, what to choose.

I used to be very, very confused and as numb as can be. Still suffered a whole lot though (I wish the numbing was more effective). Had no idea what to do, what to choose. My first quality psychotherapy seven years ago started me on the healing process, a process available to all of us. This healing includes, over time, being able to experience our emotions less intensely, so we are not overwhelmed and don’t go numb.

Think of other animals that don’t have the logical brain capacity that humans have. They are not confused because they are guided by(in addition to their instincts), their emotions. They know when to look for food, when to mate and so on because they have access to their emotions. We need the same access. Logic alone will not do because we are animals, not machines.

anita