koko vega,

Change is a pretty big and generic term.  You have not specified what changes you feel that you have to make or what is being demanded of you by your partner.

Regardless, the point is that you are feeling on the short end of the stick, that the relationship is not balanced or fair.  Are you two seeing a counselor about this?  Is this something you two can talk about?

The bigger issue is how you and he can accept and support each other.

Mark