Dear koko vega:

I don’t think you “should be the only one that has to change” in this relationship. I don’t think you should be in this relationship at all because of the following reasons:

1. “He smokes which (you) hate”.

2. “he likes to go through all (your) things: email, bank accounts, text messages”- this is a heavy duty intrusion on your privacy. (You do have a right for privacy within a relationship).

3. “he takes his frustrations out on (you)”

4. He is focusing on you needing to change, not believing in counseling for himself.

anita