Dear Heartbrokenman:

I think you are feeling so desperate because you live  “all alone at home, in a small rural location” and wish you lived in a city city where she lives (“while she lives in the city”), because you are “having all this free time”, not attending college, not working and not playing football and to top all these, you haven’t slept well for a while.

To feel better change your circumstances somewhat? Maybe move, continue your education/ certification, find a job?

I noticed you wrote: “I think that someone may be telling her she has to end it, her family or psychologist, as this relationship has become so unhealthy for her”.

I have a question: do you think then that she is not capable to figure out by herself if any particular relationship is healthy or unhealthy for her?

anita