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July 4, 2018 at 6:44 am
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Dear Derek:
Maybe it comes down to, or will come to what you value more, love or fear.
If you value love way more, and you choose sides, so to speak, that is, choose the side of love, then you can be stronger when fear spikes, and when fear says: “you would never have found him attractive back then”
You say something stronger than: “but I love him and don’t want to leave him”, bursting into tears.
You can say instead, in a confident, strong voice: “I love him, so take a hike, fear, go away!”
And you react this way again and again and again, until you get used to reacting this way.
anita