Hi Anita, thanks for your thoughts.

I get that this is the gap in attachment that feeds my anxiety. I can feel that when I don’t ask myself too many questions and go with the flow, it turns out well. I dated other guys at the beginning of this relationship but I didn’t feel at ease doing that. The other person I dated was more into texting and reassuring but I felt that he was similar to me in his reactions, so it was interesting to see how I can react in relationships.

I prefer seeing my friends, doing outdoors activities that focusing and spending my time too much on dating.

I feel that there is a lesson to learn, I want to find a balance between being avoidant and wanting the connection. I have been with someone for 8 years but I was too afraid to have a real connection, to commit, to live in the same city, even if we understood each other very well and spent very good quality time together. I know my anxiety is something that I am working on, willing to work on, and maybe this relationship won’t last, but it will help me to understand me better and lead me to healthier relationships.