Hi, Hey It’s Jess:  Like Anita, an example or two would be helpful. Other than that, I’m with Inky.  People who put down your ambitions are always coming from jealousy, envy and fear. You being successful and doing what YOU want IS their worst fear, because they didn’t get what they wanted or failed to go after it.  They want you to be on their level, because if you succeed, they’ll perceive you as ‘better’ than they are.  Their perceptions are not your problem. It’s bloody hard not to react or defend, have been there and done that. First of all, get some rest – over-tiredness never did anyone any good when you have a work load.  Rest and sleep will help you tackle the work load and the tough work days and you’ll feel better.  Keep saying ‘So What?’ Feel sorry for these people if you can, because they seem to be so very insecure. Realising where they’re coming from, and I mean REALLY realising –  will help you react in a positive way rather than a negative.  When they start putting down your goals and ambitions, go for a ten minute walk if the situation allows – you won’t be shouting and rageful at them, you won’t be there to say anything you may regret, therefore you’ll have no guilt later on about losing your temper. You’ll get those feel-goods endorphins (?) going and get a few minutes exercise too.  Or smile and say “Well, I’ve got nothing new to say about this situation and neither do you. I’ve got things I need to be doing. Have a nice day. ”  Then go and DO THINGS that will assist your forward progress instead of wasting all that energy on defence and anger. Work out that anger in the ten minute walk or shut yourself in the car and have a good shout for a few minutes.  Bottling up the anger is not healthy either. Just express it differently.  They’re never going to see your point of view because they don’t want to and you can’t make them. Accept it and get on with whatever it is you want to do.  Good luck.