Dear Hey Its Jess:

I am glad to read from you too. Quotes from you and my thoughts:

1. “We are talking about my mom… In her eyes, I will never be enough or good but that’s ok I still love her. I just have a problem with my anger”- reminds me of the fragmentation you mentioned in a previous thread. I figure a fragment of you is okay with your mother, a fragment of you is angry at her.

2. “the people I live with don’t think much about my goals and ambitions…I was actually referring to my family… the criticism doesn’t stop.. it doesn’t bother me… I’m quite used to it”- if only our parents were only people-we-live-with. Again, a fragment of you cares, a fragment of you doesn’t care.

3. “I don’t let it get to me and am totally ok… as long as I have enough faith in myself, I can accomplish whatever I set my mind to… it gets really hard to ignore.. when I am tired or going through a rough time at work… I just can’t seem to control my emotions in these moments”- when you are tired or under distress, the fragment that cares takes over.

4. (from a previous thread),”I have realized that my happiness is directly proportional to the amount of things that I get done in the day.. If I waste time or slack off, I go to bed feeling like a sore loser.. and that depressing feeling stays with me for some days”

Back to this thread, “I believe freedom and choice comes first. I want to be really good at animation and illustration while running an event management business on the side… I strongly believe that I can do it” – I believe you can do it too.

I also believe that the angry fragment is not going anywhere. Whatever career success you experience,  when tired, when having a tough day, when under distress, when not having accomplished enough in one day, the hurt, angry fragment that is there all the time will show up to spoil that success for you.

This part of you that is hurt and angry, that cares about the criticism, wants your attention and respect. Only when it gets your attention and respect, will it calm down. Integrate the hurt part and the okay part into one Hey Its Jess, and your life will be so much better for it.

anita