Dear MissUnderstood:

You wrote, “I am almost ‘disappointed’ in myself for staying because it is against what I always said I would do”- this is a problem. You are disappointed in yourself because you broke your own promise to yourself. I can see why this is so difficult for you, beyond his betrayal of your trust in him. It is also about your trust in yourself.

“Not sure I can get over it” you wrote as part of the title of your thread. I don’t know if you should get over it, in term of continuing the relationship, now that I understand better. It is not that I think what he did is objectively unforgivable and cannot be worked on. It is that your trust in your own promises to yourself is very important.

I will be away from the computer for about twelve hours. I hope to read from you again.

anita