Dear Cali Chica:

I used to read books and online about this and that but not anymore. Instead, I look at people and situations from what is called “a beginner’s mind”, looking at the building blocks of things, from the beginning.

I need to get away from the computer soon and will be back in about 16 hours. I will leave you today with this thought (I already expressed it to you): in the beginning a girl is one mental unit with her mother, not having the concept of the two being two different people; the  two are fused.

Many women never adequately separate from their mother. To separate mentally, a woman has to see her mother as she is. It is only then that a daughter is able to see herself.

Most women (and men) see their unloving mothers as loving. The price to pay for such wrong seeing/believing is  seeing oneself as not worthy of love and living a life according to such core belief.

anita