Dear Bella:

You want to “travel and grow old with someone”. Somewhere not too far from you there is a man who is not in a relationship and who also wants to travel and grow old with someone, a man who shares your basic values. I suppose you would like a man who acts mature, not childish (a word you use a lot).

Can you imagine, there is a man like that. Not a perfect man, of course. So you will have to graciously endure some differences from the idea of a perfect partner. I think it is a good idea for you to write down what it is that you need from that partner, one to grow old with, the things you will not compromise about, and the things that you are willing to compromise about. So that you have a clear picture and be able to spot that man who is out there when you see him. Such clarity will help you reject other men sooner than later.

What do you think?

anita