Dear MissUnderstood:

It is possible that the relationship with him will be better than it ever was, in the future. It is possible that it will work well for your benefit. Forgiving your partner for a mistake, an imperfection is part of loving him. And he should do the same for you. When you make a mistake, you can think: oh, this is not so bad. After all, I forgave him for his mistake. I am worthy of him forgiving me.

I am not suggesting you cheating on him, of course, or intending to mess up the relationship in any way. I am suggesting tolerance for the inevitability of making mistakes, making bad choices that are not too big to be unforgivable.

Forgiving him would mean no longer talking about his mistake from one point on, not treating him forevermore as guilty-until-proven-innocent and not beating yourself up for staying. Can you do these things?

anita