Dear Lizzie888:

I suppose I was mistaken. Another member had a very similar username to yours, including the number. Welcome to the forum.

To summarize what you shared: your first relationship lasted three months, half of it long distance. You felt that you were unable to express and show your feelings toward him, hoping that he will know what you feel without you expressing it, especially when other people were present.

He initiated a breakup with you.  After the breakup his ex girlfriend visited him and he started a new relationship. He told you that his ex girlfriend visited him as a friend only and that the new woman in his life chased him.

A female friend of yours who lives where he lives told you first that he was getting close to another woman or plural, to other women. Later she told you that he was bad mouthing you.

You wrote: “I feel like it is all my mistake that he couldn’t stay in love with me”, mainly because you didn’t express your feelings for him. You feel that you weren’t enough, that you were “the bad person” and that “everyone who knows about our relationship is bad mouthing me”

My input: I am suspicious of your friend who tells you things about your ex boyfriend. I am suspecting she tells you things and she tells him things, pretending to be on your side and then on his, and in so doing, she is encouraging trouble. Better not share anything personal with her, not in a personal communication and not on social media.

Your ex boyfriend’s answer to a question or questions you asked him was that his new girlfriend chased him. What was it you asked him; did you ask him if he chased her?

anita