Dear Claudia:

Your emotional attachment to him has been significantly greater than his emotional attachment to you. You felt (and feel) that you need him very much while he didn’t and doesn’t feel the same.

Emotional attachment is what most people refer to when using the word love. It is the first form of love. A baby/ young child forms its first and most powerful emotional attachment to the parent holding and caring for it.

When we are emotionally attached to another person, it feels like we can’t live without that person. We feel this way because for a baby, life is believed to be impossible without the parent. This is why young animals, like fawns, follow the does (female deer, the mothers) wherever they go.

You are like a fawn in this context, motivated to follow this man wherever he goes, wanting nothing more than to be with him. Being away from him feels so very badly.

Where do you go from here, what is next?

anita