Hi Giselle,

If it is truly no big deal, then he should be able to delete her from Instagram or WhatsApp. Or even delete those apps(!). Or even grant you total access to his phone (!!). Of course the problem with that is it makes you look like a totally controlling person who is basically admitting out loud that There is a Problem in my Perfect Relationship! It’s humiliating to be undone by seemingly trivial communications. Since it’s not “even close to infidelity” YOU are now the one with the problem if you dare think it’s a problem! See how that works?

Don’t let him gaslight you. Tell him that even his side-piece lost interest. Or, to heal the relationship, you could deluge him with hundreds of Instagram posts and WhatsApp communications that anyone else’s is quickly diluted.

Best,

Inky