Dear maggie mac:

You are welcome.  You wrote that he cannot stand “any type of drama or fighting” and reads to me, he has been very consistent in his refusal to engage in any type of drama or fighting. From personal experience I know that it is possible to never fight in a relationship, therefore I believe his expectation to not engage in any kind of fighting is realistic. Not engaging in unnecessary drama is also a realistic expectation.

His priority in the context of a relationship is to not be distressed. He would rather not be in a relationship than be in one that is distressing to him. This is my understanding. Therefore, it really is up to you to be okay with the way things have been so far or not. And if you are okay with it (not ecstatic, I understand, but okay), then better not start get back on any of those roads to nowhere with him, if you are back in contact with him, and back into the relationship.

I hope to read from you soon.

anita