Dear Lily:

You wrote, “I have so much baggage”. You and the baggage you carry are not the same thing: there you are the person and there is the baggage you are carrying, two separate things.

You are worried that your baggage will be a burden to another (How does one believe they deserve love and aren’t a future burden”)- it is not necessary that she has to carry your baggage. Over time it is possible for you not to carry that baggage, not to be burdened with it yourself.

anita