Dear Sheelanagig:

You are very welcome, and thank you for expressing your appreciation of me.

Yes, I believe I know what you are talking about. I am glad you have more clarity now and I hope you do not “beat (yourself) up for being a sucker” or for any other reason. When you beat yourself up, you are beating that little girl in you. She will cooperate with you well  if you earn her trust by being loving of her unconditionally, never punishing, never vindictive. Be gentle with her.

anita