Dear Bella:

What if instead of waiting for him to “come to his senses”, you come to your own? What I mean by this is that it may be the time to accept part of the reality of life no one likes to accept, or to examine to start with. People lie, people betray trust, people reciprocate love with hate, people do all kinds of cruelties to others.

Not everyone, of course. But a whole lot of people all over the world. Wouldn’t it be lovely if everyone was decent, personally and socially responsible, caring to do-no-harm to others? It would be lovely.

But this is not the world we live in. And sometimes, we too harm others. We have to be careful, to be true to ourselves and to others, to be assertive and to do no harm, not to ourselves and not to others. We have to consider the consequences of our actions, to see that we say what we mean and mean what we say.

So who should come to one’s senses?

anita