Dear Kenny:

There are three people you should not turn to for help: your parents because they have suggested to you repeatedly that you are worthless (“all they will do is criticize… and tell me how worthless I am”) and your ex girlfriend because she mistreated you badly.

From your descriptions, your girlfriend’s “love” was not love at all. It was her exerting power over you for her advantage and your disadvantage. She was about having power over you, not about loving you.

One day soon enough you will be involved in a loving relationship with a woman able and willing to love you, a woman who will have your well being on her mind, no less than her own. Until then, this is now your time to recover from your latest devastation.

It is now time to be very gentle with yourself, and very patient with the process of taking one little step at a time to make your life better. The discomfort you are in is temporary. Make it better this next hour, this very day, and then even better tomorrow.

From as calm as mind as you can muster, make a plan, a practical plan. You are welcome to share this plan here and post anytime you would like, sharing your thoughts and feelings through the process of making your life better.

anita