Hi Anita,

I would like to share today on a positive note in the right direction for healing & my positive feelings. I have been causally  talking to a friend of mine since the break-up with my ex.  We worked together approx. 28 yrs. ago & have always been distant friends.  He is a person of high integrity & ex-military background which I grew up in & understand very well. He was married when we worked together, but has since been divorced 15 yrs.  He has never dated anyone seriously since his divorce as he is hesitant of commitment.  I always knew that about him & it intrigued me.  (rare in men)  Which is fine for me because I prefer not to have someone like my ex that want’s to jump from lily pad to lily pad being in Love so often & so quickly.

We are meeting for lunch today & then a movie and if we decide afterwards ~ coffee & chat.  We have been talking on the phone several times a day & he is very considerate, I can tell he listens to what I say I am doing for the day, because he will call after the fact & ask me how things went.  Very refreshing from what I have been living with in the past 8 yrs. with my ex.  These feelings are reminding me of new possibilities in a relationship.  I am not looking to fall in Love, I would like a trusting friend and someone to care about & the same towards me.

I am not expecting Love, or anything amazing,  just looking for a friend & the possibilities of a relationship.  Since I knew him years ago, I feel like I know a lot about him without since we have a long friendship & because I knew his wife also. (We all worked for the same company & he still works there.  He doesn’t play games & he is very responsible.  He is a little low key & has not traveled & he is not a materialistic person.  If anything,  that would be one thing that could cause differences in us since I have always traveled  & I do like nice things.  But those are minor compared to what I have dealt with in the past.

I am happy to feel comfortable enough to want to spend time with him.

I will fill you in tomorrow & let you know what happens.  I want to take this nice & slow and make sure of my true feelings.

I am not saying I still haven’t been thinking of my ex, because I have.  His Birthday is next week and I always acknowledged it and was wandering if I should send him a card, or a text.  Something simple from me & the cats.  I wouldn’t leave the door open or anything, just a simple “Happy Birthday” text.  What do you think??

Bella~