Dear Bella:

Talking about “no deceit… Everything is out on the table…100% honesty”- it would  be dishonest to send a happy birthday wishes to someone you hope is miserable!

And to be this honest with the man you will be seeing today, it is not required that you feel any particular way about your ex. The only requirement for 100% honesty is that you close the door on your ex as far as your behavior goes (not your feelings or thoughts, these are none of anyone’s business).

So you don’t send a card or a text to the ex, this is a behavior, in line with closing the door. And you do not look at the ex’s phone bill, and you don’t initiate any other PI work regarding him, and so on. This way you are 100% honest with yourself and with the man you will be meeting today.

Post anytime, New Best Friend Bella!

anita