Dear Felix:

Welcome back.

“I live in the real world”, you wrote. Part of the real world is the part you are very familiar with, where people value material goods and nothing else: bigger houses, fancier cars, more and more, and then some more. This world exists not only in Los Angeles but in small towns, and in developing countries.

I lived in Los Angeles for 25 years or so, not all people living in Los Angeles are clones with the same values, same motivations.

Exit that materialistic world you live in, and enter a different world in the very same place you lived all your life, Los Angeles. Stop fighting a battle you can’t win, one you shouldn’t be fighting. I say that you can’t win because you said it yourself, you are too old to  win it, being 10 years to old, specifically.

So leave that world, turn your back to it and in your search for love, see to it that you approach women who are not likely to have your money on their mind before they even meet you, then get to know the woman, make sure she really does have values other than your money. Then proceed.

You may be a loser in that world, not having the $ amount required to be a winner. But you can be a winner in a different world where honesty and kindness are valued. If honesty and kindness are what you value. This leads me to ask you: what is it that you value?

anita