Hi Dario,

Are you low on self-esteem? This person rejects you constantly yet you overlook his attitude.

I don’t think you are misreading him. He seems like a great guy but… saying “The person that he loved is no longer there and he can’t be the same person.” shows him to be too cautious and unwilling to take a chance.

The person that he loved has come back more mature, more sensitive, more supportive who would like to resolve the issues there were. How can he not like to be with this new person?

If you are clear about your feelings towards him (meaning you are not being melodramatic or fluffing things up) then he seems to be the confused one. He is not valuing that you are there. It will hurt a lot (a lot) but you are going to have to believe that you don’t need him. You can do things on your own. Perhaps he will realize your value if you leave. But you have to be prepared for a future without him. Who knows, he might come back to at least talk if nothing else, but if he doesn’t, then also you’re doing fine. You need a lot of inner strength.