Dear Nichole:

You are welcome. I think that there is a chance for this relationship, based on what you shared and my understanding. If you learn to control your impulsivity, if you are able to never be verbally abusive to him again.

If you do get together with him again, it is very important that your verbal abuse of him is not something you will be working on, but something that will never happen again, not even once. If you are not able to do this, better not resume a relationship.

Unlike what a lot of people think it is possible to not abuse a person with whom we supposedly have a loving relationship. It is possible to never argue, but to respectfully talk again, resolve conflicts peacefully. It is possible to always respect the other, no matter how we feel.

anita