That makes alot of sense, i also think theres some immaturity that played a part because when we were beginning to get more serious and we hit our fist big hurdle in our relationship… He practically ran and wanted the single life despite what happened to me. He couldnt keep up with the responsibilities and i at the time put alot of pressure on him and he just bailed on everything.

But now that we are doing much better and our relationship is in a good place, i cant understand why he has such a low sex drive. We’ve spoken a little about it and he said he wants to start discovering sex with me again from the beginning starting with all the little basic and try and rejuvenate his libido. Im being patient because he does feel crap that hes sex drive is so low. He useto be very big on sex and he always had a much higher sex drive than me but that seems to have just died down. He liked watching porn and masturbating, and loved being intimate with me. but now we are lucky if we have sex once a week. This worries me cause he always said sex is important in a relationship and now hes battling getting in the mood. Is there anything i can do to motivate his sex drive?