Dear Miranam,

I totally understand the need for reciprocity. But as I understand your situation, you are looking for it from sources who cannot be relied on giving it to you. Isn’t that setting yourself up for disappointment? Are you likely to get it for certain from any other source?

The only person who you can rely to be your complete and total source of love is yourself. That is who you should live for. That is who you should care the most about.

You may need to reprioritize your values and do more for yourself. Maybe push down family on the priority list and make caring  for yourself the number 1 priority.

Take care