Dear Jean:

In regards to “Was it me?”- I am leaning towards No, it wasn’t you. My reason is because he wasn’t fully in the relationship from the very beginning, so it wasn’t like he was in, got to know you and then withdrew. He was withdrawn from the beginning before knowing you and remained so.

Reads to me that he had significant misgivings about having a relationship at all, concerns, distress that he had before he met you. What do you think?

anita