Dear Yogalover:

“what should I do?”

My answer: break up with him.

My reason: when he told you that “those are only his parents views and he loves (you) and wants to be with (you)”- these are not really “only his parents views”. Part of him views you in his way, but part of him views you their way. Our parents have mental representative in our brains, and their mental representative sees you as inferior to white women.

There is nothing you can do about this reality. He loves you and thinks you are beautiful, but he also loves his parents and it is his parents that were present during the formative years of his life, therefore they keep .. speaking to him no matter how far he lives away from them.

If he already told them about you and stated to them: this is my woman regardless of what you think or want for me, my answer would be different. But he told you instead that he will keep you as a secret.

What do you think/feel?

anita