Dear Flove:

Your misdeeds do not excuse his. His wrongdoing, repeatedly looking into your messages, talking negatively about you to an ex and to other people, these are wrong on his part regardless of whether you broke up with him early on and went back to your ex and  whether you flirted with your ex or not.

Clearly you are a conscientious person, you care about doing the right thing. One of the right things for you to do is to not be in a relationship with A.

To do right, to be fair and loyal you have to pay attention to what you do, think before you act, choose thoughtfully. One of the things to pay attention to and thoughtfully choose is who you associate with. A is not right for you to associate with. His friends who support his behavior are also not right for you to associate with.

The gossip you mentioned, is that limited to social media or do you live perhaps in a small town where you daily see the people who gossip about you?

anita