Dear tricia:

You asked: “I feel like I have unsettled issues with these two women. Do I? Or are things settled..?”

my answer: seems to me that things as settled as they are ever likely to be, or put in other words, things are unsettled and  likely to remain unsettled. I would say, move on. It is more difficult for most people to make new friends at 50 than as teenagers and in the 20s, but it is still possible.

I suppose it will be wise to attempt friendship with women whose life circumstances and struggles are different from those of these two women. What do you think?

anita