Hi Jay

Ouch that is a difficult situation to be in.

Two things I noted.

The tendency to compare ourselves with others is never helpful and a bad habit to get into. If your working in the practice, letting go of such comparisons and learning to love yourself without comparison is a good place to start.

The second thing is the speculation that you can know what another person is thinking, or motives are.  You can’t. The rule of charity states that if there are multiple possibility’s behinds someone actions and you cannot be sure which is true, pick the story (it is a story until you confirm it) that is most compassionate. Pick the story that does you the least harm.  The other option is to talk to this person and ask them straight out if there is any ulterior motives to their interactions to you. That would take a great deal of courage and understandable if you decide not to, however if you decide not to,  again choose the better story and in this way let it go.