Dear knowledgeispower:

We humans are animals first, we operate by the same rules. Our human sophistication doesn’t remove us that far from our animal nature.

In many animal species the male’s interest is to mate with as many females as possible so to bring about as many of his genes into the next generation. The female’s interest is to allow the strongest male to mate with her so that her offspring are strong and able to survive. So the males shows off his strength via mating rituals, flapping his wings making loud noise, etc.

In humans there is some sophistication. Behaving in a “Handsome, kind, charming… seemed perfect” way can be just that, a mating ritual.

He didn’t reply to you recently, that is not kind or charming. At the least you know now that he is not perfect.

Of course, men are also interested in being loved, just like women. Except there is also the animal mating thing going on for many, the sexual urge to mate and the behaving their best for the purpose of mating. There are many men who appear this or that way for the purpose of mating and for no  other reason.

Got to keep the big picture in mind. What do you think?

anita