Anita and all: feel free to comment on anything i post!!! i was only putting names to remember which post i was responding to. I appreciate your feed back and constructive criticism. Sometimes hearing unbiased perceptions from those who have not seen face to face what i have been thru it helps. I never really looked at it as i am protecting  my daughter  from ” a man” and you are right, this is not coparenting. He simply uses her as a bait to see if he can reel me back in. Even our shared visits are usually filled with him begging me to return and how we could all be a happy family. It is so sick how the wiring in my brain literally pulls me back into those feelings!!!!I have to remind myself of all the horrible things i have suffered because of him!!! He recently had the nerve to tell me he was not responsible for all the physical abuse he did because “i hit him first in the relationship” and  ” he has scars too” Mind you this hit he is talking about is me scratching and pushing him in the first three months we were dating because he hugged some other girl and said he was leaving with her and his friends at a cook out. the alcohol did not help either. Now even though i was physically aggressive with him at this time, he certainly did not sustain any black eyes and hemorrhaged conjunctiva, loss of hearing of elbow fractures like he has given me. And as sick as this justification was, I found myself actually thinking about my responsibility in MY ABUSE!!. I have been trying to make attempts at paying debts and getting my credit back together as he bled me financially dry but it is so hard!!!All these debts we accrued and he will have no part in resolution and is currently fighting me because he is facing eviction. He expects me to pay his rent!!!!! Saying that it was the bills i accrued when me and MY kids lived there!! Sick!! I just want to escape him!!! No contact does not work because he is a stalker!!!