Dear Cali Chica:

I was wondering, about a couple of posts ago where you wrote that this man’s wife feels threatened by you, what do you mean by that?

Regarding owning and being owned, we have to be careful not only to not be owned, best we can, but to not own another, that is, to have this deep respect for others’ right to make their own choices, however we may disagree with those choices (except when a choice includes hurting a third party, like a child). It is about not pressuring another to make this or that choice, to present one’s position clearly, honestly and respectfully.

anita