Dear Anita,

I am so sorry for my late reply, I was on vacation and I completely forgot to answer your questions ! I promise I will do my best to give a quick answer !

My purpose is not for you to turn against your mother. It is to get insight so that you can improve your future relationships and live a better life.

Of course I understand. I know some problems we encounter in relationships are related to the one we had with our (dominant) parent and I must say I have reflected on that in many occasions. I don’t think the relationship I had with my mom was (is) completely healthy, and we don’t get along very well these days but that’s another story.

Regarding your questions :

She put others in their place with words.

And she put me in my place with words and sometimes it was physical (i got spanked, or smacked) but I don’t think that was excessive