Dear Janus, Earth Angel:

It is good news that you can graduate sooner than later.

Regarding the guy who is  a Christian, I think I understand his motivation then, he probably became a born again Christian lately and it is a biblical/ church instruction to ask forgiveness. Thing is, according to Christianity he can enter heaven without your forgiveness, all he needs is god’s forgiveness and that is, according to the religion, available for him without your participation. In any case, tell him and the rest of the active Christians in your college, and elsewhere: “thank you, but I am not interested”. That is all.

For a born again Christian, anything more than a short statement indicating a complete lack of interest indicates to them some openness and they may keep  on pressuring you. So, thank-you-but-no will be appropriate.

You asked for “good ways to practice time management skills”- my answer: eliminate tasks that are not necessary or are wasteful. Eliminate communicating with the Christians in your college and elsewhere, that will save you valuable time. Then, eliminate all communications with your parents that are not absolutely necessary. In other words, eliminate time and energy wasters, that is good time and energy management.

Regarding the inner critic, we discussed that many times. When you notice its voice and the distress, breathe in slowly and deeply, relax best you can and voice to yourself a correct thought, one true to reality.

You are very welcome, glad to be helpful to you anytime that I am. I will soon be away from the computer for the next 16 hours or so. I know you don’t have classes today, I hope you prepare yourself for next week classes.

anita