Dear Kavita:

Thank you for your reply. If I understood you correctly, you expressed that short term pain can lead to a long term better understanding of life and a better experience of life (“short term pain sometime and a long term truth which Sholden people accept it and understand it”), and I agree, absolutely.

Lots of people run away from the short term pain, I did, again and again, so my path toward better understanding and a better living was blocked, repeatedly. I hope to read more from you, here or in your own thread. Try to write as clearly as you can so that I can understand better.

Dear Petal:

Thank you for your reply. I do hope you learn to be gentle with yourself, more and more so every day. I wasn’t and I know people who aren’t. It is painful to watch people beating themselves up, being so harsh with themselves, it is watching self abuse, it is tough. And I did it, I too am learning every day to be gentle with myself. Glad you are a member here and hope to read more and more from you.

anita