Hi,

This is my first time posting here, but Hannah, you sounded like you were describing me, and I have read posts before and always enjoy reading Anita’s responses because you always sound so encouraging and empathetic.  At 60 years old, I’m starting (again) to work on finding my place in the world.  Lost my husband to cancer almost a year ago, and I didn’t know who I was when I wasn’t his wife any more.  But even before that, all my life in fact, I didn’t really know who I was.  Been reading self-help books since I was a teen, and they help me feel inspired, but I don’t seem to keep at it and get depressed again.  I think learning to love, or at the very least like, yourself is the key, but how do you do that when you don’t know yourself very well?  I also think I’m afraid to look, but I’ve been trying, and I think I can see some progress finally.  I don’t really have any advice for you Hannah, except to keep your head up and keep trying.  Best of luck!