Hi LeeP,

Thank you for your reply. I am so sorry to hear that you lost your husband. Cancer is a very cruel disease.

When you say you didn’t know who you were, why do you feel that way? Did you feel like you followed along with what your husband wanted in life, or what you felt your family/peers/society felt you should do?

Why do you feel that you are afraid to look?

I can empathise with ‘not knowing who you are’. I think when you move away from one life (so with me, away from the religion, and with you, away from your life with your husband) you perhaps are so used to living a certain way or being a certain way that is so intertwined with other people that you forget to take stock of what you really want or how you really feel. It is definitely easier to be taken along with the current than to swim against it.