Dear Colton:

You are welcome. “Through numerous times of getting angry and blaming I have never seen her look inward, the problems always come from the outside and she is reacting with honest emotion”-

regardless of any issues you might have, it is as clear as can be,  to me, that her issues are harmful to you big time. I think that what she suggested about what may be an issue for you from the time before you met her, you already started looking into, looking inward, haven’t you?

But she doesn’t look  inward. I have a suggestion, will you google the DSM-4 entry on Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and tell me what you think of it in regard to your girlfriend?

* a personality disorder is not something a person is born with, it develops over time during a difficult, sickening childhood. In some cases there is healing, in many (the more extreme, I suppose) there is no healing throughout one’s lifetime.What characterizes a personality disorder is the inability or unwillingness to look inward.

There is no personality disorder more harmful in the context of an intimate relationship than this one.

I am not a psychiatrist or a professional of any kind and this is not a diagnosis I am making. Yet, I think it may be helpful to google it, as it is, after all, information that is available for anyone.

anita