Hello Anita,

Thank you very much for your response.  It is thought provoking, without a doubt.

You ask how living with him is the right thing to do.  For me, it’s because now he is trying.  I see his effort.  I just don’t know if I have it in me to be open to receiving that effort.

Which is why I left the note for him (before he left on the golf trip…and if that doesn’t speak volumes!) suggesting that both he and I talk honestly about what we need and want from each other and our marriage, starting today, going forward.  Still, I did that more for his benefit.  Because in his mind, he’s doing all these things and that should make things right, right?

I have to head out the door, but will post more later.

Airene