Dear Flower P:

The fear of losing your boyfriend as a result of showing less excitement in the bedroom as well as any pressure on his part that you do show excitement accomplishes the opposite. A person does not get motivated to be spontaneously loving when scared. Or pressured.

Did you explain to him what is going on, the way you explained it here? If so, how did he respond, what did he say to you and did he change anything in his behavior?

anita