Dear Mathilde-S:

First, it is clear that you are anxious about whether this relationship is progressing or on its road to ending. As to your question, I re-read your previous post, what he told you.

I think it is not a good thing, what he told you, it is a reasonable cause for concern on your part. I think so because I know how powerful fear is, and he told you that “he was a bit scared“. When fear appears in the context of a relationship by a previously nonchalant, distant person, that is a cause for concern.

You gave him a good answer, a correct answer, and you are a sensible, rational, well articulated person. Problem is .. fear is very powerful, and if his fear increases, he will do what it takes to eliminate the fear.

You can’t talk a person out of fear. A person can’t talk  himself or herself out of fear a lot of the time. Talking about fear is very challenging. He is afraid, you are afraid. As a matter of fact, everyone is afraid.

Talk about it, better than looking for signs or what is considered normal. Communicate simply and honestly, that is your best bet. No guarantees in these matters, but you can increase the possibility that the relationship will last if the two of you communicate well.

anita