Dear Julie:

You wrote: “I’ve had so many ‘friends’ betray me in the past” and that a part of you “is just so hurt by being left on the back burner”. I think that your hurt over past betrayals and being placed on the back burner while someone you cared for attended to someone else, that hurt in you is deep.

Regarding Adam, he is not only a best friend as you referred to him, but unless the relationship with him changed since your previous threads, he is also a lover, a friend with benefits of sorts who dates other women, not only you. I am concerned about this arrangement because I think that you (feeling “territorial w/my friends”) need a relationship with a man who will be physically intimate only with you, don’t you think?

anita