Dear Kkasxo:

You wrote that you experienced “an extremely traumatic event some 4 months ago”. From previous threads that event followed a perfect 2.5 year relationship. What preceded the event was a difference of opinion between you and your boyfriend at the time.

His family “took his side”, his mother texted you that her son, your then boyfriend, had a choice to make: you or his family. There were “weeks of emotional abuse” by his family who “actually became bullies”, someone from his family showed up at your home, and your then boyfriend withdrew from you. The extremely traumatic event took place sometime during the weeks of emotional abuse and bullying, and you don’t want to  give any details of it.

You asked and received advice, read loads of self help books, but none helped you. “It is nice reading it, but it is a different thing trying to apply it to your own life”. I don’t think it is possible for anyone to give you advice and input you didn’t already receive without knowing what happened.

Somehow, somewhere, you will have to tell someone what happened: what was the nature of that difference of opinion? What was the nature of the abuse?

Depending on the details, the healing you are seeking may require turning to the legal authorities or the courts for a legal resolution and prosecution, maybe a monetary compensation, depending on the nature of the abuse you suffered from the multiple adults in his family.

anita