It is nice that you have a friend that you can rely on like this in times of need. I always find it is nice to get some perspective on the situation from the opposite sex (someone who can perhaps relate to our ex’s).

To be honest, your ex sounds so much like mine in that description of wanting to somehow be sure that you are on ‘good terms’. How can you possibly be on good terms in this situation is beyond me! Nontheless, you’ve done your bit and you were strong enough to respond and still go on! That’s progress! I do still think that it was his way of opening up a line of communication, he was just shut down by your short response and perhaps that’s why he didn’t reply to it. I guess we’ll never know!

At the moment I am in a state of confusion about everything. Its almost as though the healing from my trauma is completely separate to healing from my past relationship, although inevitably they are closely linked together. The trauma healing is all about learning to accept that was indeed a part of my life, learning to deal with the feelings of hurt, loss and grief around this. Healing from my past relationship is more so about forgiveness. On one hand it is just the simple aspect of heartbreak, that alone is difficult. And then the other is all about learning to forgive and let go of the fact that he did play a major part in the trauma itself. It’s strange and I don’t know where to start with my approach.

I did chase up my counselling appointments but it appears I’ve got at least another month of waiting unfortunately.