Dear vibrant_me:

If you want to share more: did you have any contact with your father over the years? And about your mother’s death, what happened?

The hope you mentioned, depending where we put our hope, it can move us forward or keep us stuck. Hope really is not with this guy. Hope is in the learning you wrote about, not in this or that man. So many people are stuck hoping their parents will one day love them, waiting.

When we put our hope in a love-interest, your ex boyfriend, in your case, it leaves your well being up to him; it leaves the power with him, not with you while he does not really have that power. Power in a relationship is in the two parties working hard together, as a team, helping each other.

anita