Dear Dee:

There is no indication in what you shared  that he  is a bad person, or even lazy. He is just not where you want a  man to be if you are  to marry him. It is not about  whether he is  good or bad. It  is about whether he is  suitable to you as a husband, and most important, if you are to start a family,  whether he is suitable to be the father  of your children.

And it is not  to say of course, that finances is the only qualifier of such suitability.

If  your purpose with him was  friendship alone, those  things won’t matter much, I assume. If you were his to be  employer, his  savings or lack of won’t matter  to you as long as he was  able  to show up to work on time and dressed appropriately, looking presentable. But the context you are  considering is marriage, and his lack of  savings and stability at  work are very relevant.

(It will be better for him to have  you reject him now than marry him and be miserable  with him,  something that he  will surely notice).

anita